I’m not sure I’ve ever kept a New Years Resolution… or even made one.
A ‘Resolution’ is defined by Google.com as 1. a firm decision to do or not to do something. or 2. the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.
Making a New Years Resolution seems to be a common thing, and unfortunately a common let down for many people. Forbes.com estimates that only 8% of those who make New Years Resolutions actually keep them. Those are some pretty steep odds for failure if you ask me.
Usually, as one year comes to an end, and the anticipation of a new year lingers, I do find myself reflecting on the past year and all that we’ve accomplished as a family… And that is usually where my attention has been focused. Reflection on the past year, on the chapter that is closing.
But something about this year is different. This year I find myself excited for the New Year… I find myself wanting to go find a new planner and start planning things for our family to accomplish. But it’s not a New Years resolutions I am thinking about. Instead, I find myself wanting to write out a bucket list… or 3…
I find myself wanting to write out a bucket list… or 3…
Why 3 bucket lists? Because our family can be divided into 3 different bucket list making, goal setting, dreamers dreaming groups. First, we have a list for our whole family-kids included. Then, a list for the hubs and I as a couple. And finally a list for myself. Don’t forget that last list; taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s selfless, and its necessary in order for you to take care of everyone else.
The first bucket list I consider to be a Family Bucket List. Dreams and goals and wishes and accomplishments for us to strive towards as a family. Things such as taking the kids ice skating for the first time; going on a family vacation this winter; have date nights with our oldest 2 to show them how to treat others with respect and also what to expect from future potential partners in their lives; making trips to each of our home towns to spend time with family; going camping… etc.
This is one that I want to get the kids involved in making. They are ages 8, 5, and 2 now, and I’m sure they will have some amazing ideas of fun things they would like to do!
The second I consider to be our Couples Bucket List. Things the hubs and I want to accomplish together. Things like planning a date night once a month without the kids; reconnecting at the end of each day to check in with one another; planning a just-us vacation to take this winter; finishing our bedroom; taking a 4-wheeling trip together… etc.
This is definitely be one to sit down and compile together with your other half.
The third I call my Personal Bucket List. This one includes my own personal goals to grow and develop as an individual. Things such as running a 5-K; growing in my photography skills; building a mom-shed; get into better shape; building the blog… etc.
So what seems to be the difference between a Resolution & a Bucket List? I think it’s in the way you look at it.
A Resolution is deciding to do or not do something. To me, that means looking at the past, and deciding what you want to change in the future. It also seems so specific to one thing. And, there is also that failure rate that is commonly associated with resolutions… and who wants that hanging over their head?!?
A Bucket List is dreaming of the future, planning for things, and a collection of yearly (or life) goals. A bucket list doesn’t feel as restrictive as a resolution. Also, a bucket list doesn’t have to have an expiration date.
So this year, instead of making a New Years Resolution, think about making a Bucket List (or 3!) instead. Dream of your future. Think about your goals, things you want to do and accomplishments that you want to achieve. Dream big, then dream bigger!
Write it all down on paper and take them out and read them every once in awhile; or paste them on your bathroom mirror, so when you wake up and get ready in the morning, you are reminded of all the greatness you want to achieve, and all the fun that you have planned for your life. Add to the lists when you think of something new and awesome that you want to do.
Dream big, then dream bigger.
And most importantly, never stop dreaming.